Everyone goes through phases in life, sometimes they feel sexy and sometimes they don’t. Are you not feeling sexy? If yes, I’ll help you bring ‘’sexy back’’.

 

What makes a girl sexy? Is it her confidence? Her inner beauty? Or her personality? I know so many answers are going through your mind, but while you are getting ready to read this, don’t move an inch, we will get there slowly.

 

Feeling sexy is a state of mind. I honestly believe that. The very first thing that you must do is express your unique personality. You need to completely understand that there is no other woman in the world like you. Therefore, you are an extraordinarily, unique, special individual. However, on the flip side, you are no different than any other woman; you have eyes, nose, buttocks, thighs, breasts, vagina, and legs. There will always be one that is bigger, better, smaller, larger, firmer and tighter than yours.

 

What makes a woman truly irresistible and desirable contains two components: 70% her inner beauty and 30% how she presents her physical assets. Her inner beauty is the totality of her ability to give off her unseen attributes i.e. personality, opinions, talent, kindness, and mannerisms freely and authentically. Additionally, she must learn what her physical assets are and accentuate and display them with confidence.

 

Don't be afraid to be who you really are. Speak your mind; be open, honest and interesting. Don't speak negatively about other people it makes you look petty. Talk about ideas. Be yourself! and be yourself! Don't worry about whether or not other people like you.

 

What is your best physical asset? Is it your eyes, breasts, legs? You have to be ready to turn heads at all times, no matter what body shape you have, work and preserve what your mama give you. Maintain your naturalness and let it glow.    

 

Buy clothes that compliment your soul and your body. If you walk in a store, for example and see an outfit that looks like it was made with you in mind, or leaving it in the store feels like you left a part of yourself behind; this is a must buy. Learn which colors, brands and styles compliment you the most and stick with what works. What looks or smells good on another woman won't necessarily have the same affect on you.

 

We all get a little lazy sometimes, but enough can not be said about personal hygiene. Pay attention to your finger and toe nails. Shave your legs and under your arms. Go that extra mile for yourself. Buy the vaginal washes that kills bacterial odor so that you will still smell fresh after a long day. Gels to whiten your teeth are not expensive, purchase them. A good rule of thumb to remember is: If he licks you from head to toe what would you taste and smell like. Take care of yourself accordingly.

 

Be unpredictable. Don't wear panties when he least expects it and wear long johns to bed just when he thought he could take you for granted. Men are socialized to be stimulated by the thrill of the hunt, to be challenged and competitive. Human value things that they believe are not easily obtained and priceless.

 

Don't be a doormat. Be a little assertive, but fair. Men love women who are challenging, poised and assertive. Don't hold a grudge or brag, let bygones be bygones but stand your ground and move on. Be a little needy. Ask him to fix your car, unplug the toilet, and put your entertainment center together. Everyone wants to feel loved and needed, not used!

 

Let him know that he is your macho man. This will only work if you are self-sufficient and independent. He will be complimented that you trust him enough to lean on him. Use this technique sparingly; it can be an extreme turn-off if used too often. Remember, for a man: It's only sexy to be needed by someone who doesn't need him. The turn-on is the fact that you chose him.

 

Be your man best friend, lover, girlfriend, wife and business consultant wrapped into one person. Listen to him when he talks about his day, friends, problems, concerns. Go have a drink with him at the bar and if a good-looking woman strolls in, you be the first to compliment her. Confidence is sexy.

 

Make love with the lights on no matter what size or shape your body is. When it's dark you can be substituted for any woman. Let him see your nipples rise to his touch, the goose pimples that cover your skin as he kisses your neck and the expression on your face when he becomes a part of you. He can't see this at the restaurant or while you are watching television together. Let him see what he does to you as a woman.

 

Before you be irresistibly sexy to your male partner, you must first learn do your homework to learn his definition of sexy. Make it a game if you can but you must find the answer to these questions: What helps him relax; what makes him feel close to you; what stimulates his senses; what arouses him sexually; what gives him pride. Learn what stimulates his five senses, touching, smelling, hearing, seeing and tasting. He is a unique individual; all men do not enjoy the same activities. The more you learn about how to please him; the more special you will become to him. Do your homework.

 

Lighten up, have a sense of humor and learn how to create a naughty mood. Flirt with him. They say the basic male instinct is to hunt, and when the chase is over, the romance dissolves. Send him on a hunt and just when thinks he can't win, coyly, offer him your lips and body. Give him eye contact when talking to him. Seek to connect with his soul. This may include a warm bath or a slice of pie while he is watching his favorite sport on television. Learn how to balance his delicate need for tenderness, love and acceptance with challenge, excitement and adventure.

 

There is nothing wrong with been sexy, religious women can be sexy too; you don’t have to be sexy for a man, just do it for your own happiness. Don’t dress provocatively; dress in way that you will feel comfortable. But if you are having a problem that is preventing you from been sexy, speak with a professional or get a self help book or speak to a closer family member or a friend.

 

Drinking and eating healthy food will help you look younger and you will feel great. Drink enough water and eat your vegetables. Exercising regularly keep you feeling healthy and confident. Carry yourself with confident, if you don’t carry yourself with confidence no one else will think you are. Don’t think about how short, fat, or tall you are, go shopping with friends whose style you enjoy, after all it’s your life. Shower regularly, keep your hair neat at all times, take good care of your nails.

 

Don’t wear too much perfume; just put enough so you smell good. Moisture your skin daily, I mean your entire body. Having a smooth skin makes you feel great and makes people want to be around you. At the end, when you have zero confidence, no one will have confidence in you.

 

Carry yourself with pride and walk like you the most beautiful woman.

 

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